Glad to see you are going with the flow, Sorry about the Beach talk. "Dammed if you do dammed" if you don't right? The cousin thing is a little tricky. It’s nice that you are helping him and nice that you and he have someone to talk to but I understand the "perception" your wife is going through. One of my Wife’s friends was going through a divorce and that was all I could think about was "are they comparing notes?" when ever they were together. She also has another friend that is unhappily married. But in this sitch the husband is abusive. So when she is with her I think "Well she can see that I am not all that bad". But both of these situations are my thoughts, my feelings. Nothing my wife did caused them. Just like nothing you are doing caused your wife to perceive her feelings The only thing you can do is try to be crystal clear. I do not mean to "betray your cousins trust" but maybe sometime when you are with your wife you might mention something about how he is too "straight forward" with his thoughts. How you disagree (if you do) about some of the things he says or is doing. You don't want to get stuck in the "friends" slump like I am with my wife but becoming friends is the first step to recovery in a marriage.
The above statement in no way reflects knowledge or wisdom. It is given by fellow husband who is trying to live and learn.....
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
