Welcome to the club none of us wanted to join!!! I wanted to offer some hugs and support. You will get a lot of that here. The greatest part is that every feeling you have, every thought, someone else here has felt and thought. You are not alone!!!
I appreciate your post on my thread last night. I don't know if you've followed my sitch, but I've been having some really great days and been feeling really good. Then, yesterday! It was the worst day I've had in I don't know when. So, thanks for stopping in with your "darkest before the dawn" comment...needed that last night!
In my opinion, the hardest part of any of our sitch's is detachment. And, even after you think you've done it, they do something crazy and suck you right back into caring too much about their actions. I tried "dark" for a while. It didn't work for me...I still have to interact daily because of the kids, and I didn't really know how to be "dark." In the end, what really has helped me is just getting a life of my own...having other things to do...other people to spend time with.
It sounds like your wife needs professional help. Unfortunately, you aren't even in a position to suggest that without making her angry. I think the best you can do is keep moving forward with your life as if she won't be part of it all the while praying that she'll find the help she needs to make herself whole.
Are the kids with her most of the time? I know how tough that has to be. As you likely gathered from my sitch...protecting the kids from this horrible business is so tough even if they live with you.
So, what kinds of things do you like to do? Do you have a hobby? Do you have close friends nearby?
I'll be following along and rooting for you, and I'll be praying for you and your family.
Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
