Hi T, just read about the phonecall. First of all you handled it pretty well. I bet it was a big surprise to be asked a direct question as that. Especially since you had no similar talks until now. I dont know though if it is positive that he tried to set boundaries. Because that is what he did. He obviously cares about you but on the other hand wants to make sure you dont have false hopes. He doesnt want to have a role in any false assumption you may be making... He is making sure there is a distance between you that he feels comfortable with. He "wants" nothing more. At least that is how I read it...
T, how long are you willing to wait for this relationship to "get back on track" again? The reason I am asking this is because maybe when you do meet him in January, he may bring it up again, try to explain why he didnt want to meet you etc. You could then have an open discussion. How would you feel about that? K
