That was a lovely interaction with H and they all help. I would extend an invitation but don't be hurt if he says no or comes over for dinner and rushes off. Whenever H felt too comfortable he would rush off but I think they also need to feel secure. It is a major battle in their heads. You are doing so well in not pushing and just going with the flow. When we first separated H said we didn't need to D until one of us found someone else (gee thanks! lol) but then he got to the stage where he "had to have a D". In his head we had to be totally split and quite frankly he became a little free with the spending so I thought it would be a good idea in the end so that I would not be liable for any debts he was running up. Along with the PTSD the MLC thing caused him to sell our 4x4 and by a 2 seater MG (don't know where he thought both girls would sit and he is totally embarassed about all of it now!) went and had a tattoo (sorry but I hate them!) had an emotional affair with another woman and oh yes - grew the worst beard on the planet! :-) Take care x
