Hi Kalni - thanks for visiting my thread. Its true, if I gave H that speech I'd most likely get "I dont know" back and then I've achieved nothing... Hi Ali - thank you so much for the time you take to post to me xx. I guess I was over reacting?!? I know I need to tone it down and no make so many assumptions. Thanks for your help
Ms Melancholy - thanks so much for posting. You know what you said about Do you feel you take 1 step forward & the you have sex & you both take 1 step back?? That is what I see. (Probably, your H taking 1 step back 1st) - that is so true. I've been thinking on this for the last couple of days. For some reason I hadnt seen my reaction as taking one step back. But of course now that you point it out it's the most obvious thing in the world... I get scared I'm going to be rejected and then I flip out and feel like I need to push H away. I think this new perspective might have helped me feel calmer this week. Dont really think I can go back on the no sex thing though now! Oops - its too late to set a boundary. I think I will aim to tease more, or not put myself in situations where hanky-panky can happen (unless there have been flowers and diamonds to woo me first!)
