Tostada, good response to Carlos's excellent post. I feel for your situation. From what you have told us, you and your W have hardly seen each other during the separation, but yet she still holds this contempt or anger towards you. She has some issues to deal with on her own as no one should hold such venom towards another that they used to live with for so long. I so wish she realizes the wrong path she is taking far sooner than my W did.
Just as Carlos and John say, you need to live your life on your and with the kids when you have them as if your W is not going to return. The only way she might consider coming back is if you are a happy guy. It is not an easy task, but I believe you can do it.
