Seeing things for what they really are... #52

[sandycay]

hhmm seems like John210 and I might be considering these things in the same light. I kinda of have that feeling the really he does love you and the kids but only on his dime, time.

Does that equate to the "He's just not into you" statement?

I don't know but this has been chugging along nowhere for a little while and think that sometimes sacrifaces have to be made.

My conditions to being reconciled were one of his jobs have to become a none traveling job. It's been 7 months but he is starting to work on it pretty aggressivly. It took him 3-4 month to start the progress and only when I finally waved a BS flag in front of the counselor for what seemed to me as his lack of initiative...since then he has been proactive. So in my case it took some time to work things out. A man can not just walk away over night when he has so many obligations so I gave that leeway for awhile. Now, what he is working on as far as job changes may not work out and frankly we can't live our lifestyle without the added paycheck but just the effort means more to me than anything... 3-4 months was an eternity but in the big scheme not so much. But on the other hand my H was very attentive so Kalni's husband is a bit different.

The other was he could not travel to "her" country of work or do anything with her "affilations"...now this could cause him to be terminated at work but oh well it sucks to be him and he has kept that end of the bargain....if he doesn't I am done. I and my kids deserve and are more important than this life (expenses) that we live. You know when H and I first started out we were so happy living in a rental and on rental furniture so I offered to go back to that lifestyle just to get the marriage back on track and I meant it. Good bye big dream house, friends, neighbors, good school district.....it was worth giving up to keep my family together. Sometimes you have to decide what you can give up.