i have been following along and reading everyone's posts here for quite some time.....hoping for some sort of miracle. something lan wrote on his thread hit a nerve with me. What he was saying (I am paraphrasing) was that we tend to sugar coat things on these boards. we hold back a little. i do it, we all do it. so i will attempt to not do that today...just for one day....see how things go.....
So we have a husband who works 18 hrs / day six days a week (give or take). Obviously loves his jobs....loves his kids and his wife. How can anyone in their right mind think they have a chance of reconciling under these circumstances....I mean seriously....this person (who i respect for his work ethic) would not even be able to take care of a pet (say a dog for instance) properly. It is obvious that he puts his work / career ahead of everything else in his life. The only question is; is K willing to wait for this person to make up his mind on which job he wants to keep and then begin the work (as FG likes to say). Is this person so paralyzed by fear that on a wedding anniversary he "thinks" about showing some type emotion towards his wife....a flower. a card, candy, some shoes, a handbag....We could all come up with something yet he "thought" about it and did not act ...... out of fear? Is this person able to slowly make his way back to a "normal" life? When he does, will k be waiting for him? Is this person worth waiting for? Only k knows the answer to that.
