I think the phone call was really positive. I'm sorry that it means that you didnt get to see him, but the real positive is that you managed to stay in control. And that he actually had that conversation with you. It was great that he asked you what your intentions were, instead of just saying he was busy.
Really positive. I love your answer too. Dont worry that you didnt make it clear enough. I get the feelings that your actions are showing so much clearer than any words or explanations that you could give him. You arent getting angry / sad when you talk to him, so he will start to trust that you arent out to 'pressure' him back into a relationship. Now if you 'seduce' him back into a relationship thats an entirely different matter
Dont worry at all what your 60 year old male psychologist friend said or didnt say - he is possibly transferring stuff from his normal work, and he isnt there to see you and B's actual interactions. I know it probably hurts. But you will be OK even if B is ambivalent to you! Sheesh thats better than B hating you, or avoiding you. You can turn his world around so that he is chasing you!
OK so back to your actions... B will be wondering if you are trying to pursue him. Dont contact him now till the day before your scheduled meet up in Jan. We will re-visit what your next plan is for that meet up.
You did well. If you are running on 4 hours of sleep you're likely to be getting emotional. Give yourself a break, and look after yourself!
Darling you did really well, and it was excellent that you called him and showed him that you did want to see him. It was the RIGHT (is there such a thing) to do.
He's the dummy that missed out on your fabulous company!
