In the parking lot I realized how DD's rape at 35 months may have affected X (who was molested as a child by her father). This must have caused X to re-live her own sexual abuse (we had major sexual relation issues).
The first marriage counselor we saw after DD was raped mentioned to me in individual session, "Do you realize you are the same age X's father was when he molested X?" I recognized the importance of that fact but not its weight.
At bomb X said she could never date a man who had children (a father). OM has no children. She also called me "daddy" once at bomb.
This is freeing in a way because I now feel this whole thing has less to do with me than I had realized (before tonight). I have little to do with it at all.
"All the world's a stage and all the men and women merely players" Shakespeare
It would really be nice to play a part in your own life.
Ya know?
Last edited by sleeper; 12/17/0803:44 AM.
"Fear is the mind-killer" Muad'Dib Me 53, XW 44, DD 14, DS 12 Bomb and OM 12/15/06 Separated 01/02/07 Divorced 05/13/08 X married OM(OMH) 08/2009 Married 06/09/13
