It's Complicated!

[glamgirl]

Well we are in a winterwonderland in OR. Very unusual for the state. We have snow and ice, no school for the kids today.

I went to work on Sunday and then was expecting h around 11am to watch the kids. He calls on his way and says do you want me to pick you up and take you to lunch.

Now by this time, it was already snowing and the roads were slick. I was a little afraid to drive, so this was perfect. H drives up and takes me to lunch. It was kind of funny, I had mentioned to a co-worker that my h was picking me up with the weather and she said oh how romantic. I guess it was a nice gesture on h's part, since another woman's h declined to drive her to work when she asked.

With the crazy weather we had a hard time finding any place that was open to eat. After work we had an appoinment to get pics of the kids for holiday. We had so much fun. Love this place called Picture Innovations. They do a great job and fairly reasonable.

After the pics we wanted to grab dinner since it was such a different night with the snow and the kids were all dressed up in holiday clothes. We had to settle for IHOP since all the restaurants were closed due to the weather.

Then we drove around our neighborhood playing Christmas music and looking at the lights. Now not many were on the streets since the warnings were to stay home, but h has AWD and hey were are a bit adventurous as long as we are not putting our kids in danger.

H was testing something on the car and we started to swerve all over the road, I just screamed out h. He was so funny! He said for a moment Glam I thought we were making love. Oh my gosh, I was on the floor laughing.

He dropped us off and left and said he would be over on Monday to relieve me from kid duty so I can go into work late. He was so sweet though. He said I will drive you. I don't want you having to drive on the ice.

I just have to keep my eye on the prize at the end of this journey. What was that prize again?

[glamgirl]

Comfort in the Storm Cont

Do not worry about anything, but pray and ask God for erything you need, always giving thanks. And God's peace which is so great we cannot understand it, will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.

Get along with each other, and forgive each other. If someone does wrong to you, forgive that person because the Lord forgave you.

Peace comes with a spirit of Forgiveness - it is a gift we extend to others and that always comes back as a blessing in our own lives.

Peace flows between heaven and earth when we extend the forgiveness and mercy we have recieved from Got to both our friends and enemies.

[Maya44]

GG, what a great time for you guys! I'm glad it's going so very well for you!

[glamgirl]

Comfort in the Storm Cont

The first step to peace between you and the one with whom you have conflict or brokeness - whether friend, family, spouse, is almost always the most difficult step of all.

It is reaching toward the other in humility, with no guarantee they will reach back in kind.

Don't be fearful of what you might lose in the process of seeking reconciliation, your reputation, your self pride, perhaps most of all your adamant claim that you were right all along.

When you finally forsake such willfulness and simply obey God, you will find that you have nothing to lose at all, but could gain a sweet peace that you would never be able to experience other wise.

Are you in pain, hanging on to a grudge?

Though your claims of mistreatment may be well justified, just think about what God could do in your heart and your life if you were to let it go today.

God doesn't change the world through the life of one who is stingy with grace, but through the one who shares grace in the measure it has been received.

[glamgirl]

Comfort in the Storm Cont

Forgive us for our sins, just as we have forgiven those who sinned against us.

The Christian faith is meant to be lived moment by moment. It isn't some broad gerneral outline - it's a long walk with a real person. Details count, passing thoughts, small sacrifices, a few encouraging words, little acts of kindness, brief victories over nagging sins.

Peace is a lifestyle - a fruit of how we walk and how we talk.

[MidwesternGirl]

Hey glam--love reading your postings today. And your day sounds wonderful--like a winter wonderland type of day.

[Upside]

glam-
Your day with the family sounds so wonderful. Hopefully there will be many, many more like that or even better in your future.

Keep trying to have patience. Your H is being very sweet to you at times. This is process and hopefully your H is working on letting go of the issues that keep his walls up and keep him from always treating you as an equal. For now, C seems to be the best place to deal with all of these issues.

(((HUGS)))

[glamgirl]

yeah it goes good and then something happens. Ok h ask me or should I say demanded a check to pay his rent. He asks me late at night after i had a long day.

He knew about this earlier in the week and springs it on me last minute. Throws me off guard and leaves me scrambling for money this week.

I just about blew a gasket when he says his money is his money. I calmly said h your money is our money just like mine is ours.

Then he proceeds to say if the house is too costly then get rid of it. As if, these are all my issues.

Hello h, we wouldn't be in this financial mess if you didn't live else where.

I have just had it with the finances with h. I do my best, but then he always throws in a wrench.

I just let it go today though and was the better one and didn't change my demeanor. I called h today and said hi hubby and then left him a nice message.

He later sent me a few words e-mail responding to my v-mail.

Oh well he will be over on Wed and Thur of this week. We will see what happens then. This is so complicated!

[plentyhope]

GG,
Wow, you did so well. I am so proud of you and admire you for choosing to be nice about his demand.

[glamgirl]

Thanks PH. I was quite impressed with myself. When I said his money is our money, h had nothing to say.

I did go on a bit long on how he keeps doing this to me, but for whatever reason he doesn't get it. He can't keep asking me to help.

I just want him to pay what he committed to and stop asking me for help. I just want that to stop.

I paid though and then dropped it and acted today like it never happened.

This is where I just need to be strong.