The fastest way for WAW to realize things aren't all your fault is a seperation.
This is a phase I had to go through in my sitch before things could turn for the better. At first, wife was sure that I was the source of all her problems and that things would be wonderful once she was rid of me.
Of course, you can't use words to convince WAW that this isn't true. They just won't listen no matter how hard you try. But then they move out and they see for themselves.
Now, at first, I still helped my wife after she moved out. So her life wasn't too bad. And when something went wrong she was able to convince herself that it was still my fault because I was still around. For example, I fixed her computer once. But then something totally unrelated went wrong a few days later. Guess who got blamed?
So I finally went semi-dark and stopped offerring to fix any of her problems. Bingo... after about a month of this her life sucked and she started to realize that maybe it wasn't me. She started to realize that perhaps she had issues!
So... About you:
Certainly you can't allow her to go back to Germany w\kids. But would it be possible for you to talk her into moving out into someplace local?
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
