Partner left after 9 years - now what?

[mishka422]

You know Ali, it sounds like you've had an amazing life so far and I can only imagine it will get better and better as time goes on.

and I never argued with my ex in 9 years.

I too never fought with my XH. The problem with that, as I realize far too late, is that we were holding back our true feelings and not communicating in an open and honest manner. Not fighting at all in a long R is NOT a good thing. It's apparent why you guys never fought, he couldn't honestly communicate and you didn't realize that he wasn't. He was just agreeable so you were "in synch". I understand completely! Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

I hope one day, in the FAR distant future I might meet someone I can have spirited debates with that wouldn't immediately agree with whatever I wanted and said. Something to strive for I guess.

You are great Ali! Keep it up! I sense the healing in you.