Healthydad writes: "I thought about sending her a note like this one: ............................. Dear W: .... I do not want a divorce from you, W, but I see now that things between us may just be too hard to reconcile. "
If you ever use words like that, she would probably take them as,
"i give up, we 'cant' fix it".
if you give the impression that your marriage is impossible to fix, you have then said that there is no responsability for ending it, because there is "nothing you can do". Implying that the right thing to do, is end your marriage.
This just isnt true. Ending it is a choice. There is responsibility on both sides for that, because there ARE things you can do.
