I was hoping someone could help me with this...

[volleydog]

My story in a nutshell, married 15yrs two kids S8/D5. We have been separated for a little over a year. The separation was my fault I had an addiction problem , the addiction wasn’t the reason it was the fact that I hid it from her. She had no idea till I got clean. The addiction lasted for about eight months. I’ve been through rehab and have 18 months clean.

The problem now is in June she filed to have the separation converted to a divorce. Since then it seems like we have gotten along better than ever. I give her her space, which I wasn’t good at during the separation phase. I didn't find this site till about a month ago and realized I've been doing all the stuff now I should have done a year ago.

The only slip I've had and the only R talk we've had in six months was was two weekends ago, it was my weekend with the kids and she called to talk about some presents for our son. I asked her if we are doing presents for each other, she said she thought so. Then comes the “bad” part, there was no arguing or anything she just asked what my plans were for Christmas. Last year I went over in the morning and spent the day there with her and the kids and her family. She said well this is your year and it’s going to be like this in the future where we switch for holidays. I told her I wasn’t sure what to do since I wasn’t sure what she was thinking as far as the divorce went. She said she didn’t want to talk about it now since she was in the middle of the store. I said fine, normally this would have brought up an argument. This was Saturday morning.

We talked a few times after this and I didn’t want to bring it up and she didn’t say anything. I dropped off the kids of Sunday we talked had a little fun with the kids and I left, nothing said. I will not bring it up again, but I can’t figure out what her plan is. Obviously she is not sure about wanting divorce, but she is still planning on that being the final outcome.