IF my heart were at a different place, then yes...but right now it is way to attached..so the no was good for me.
he still has far far to go =(
Beleive me I wish it were different.
Cagz,
I totally get this. My ex-H and S10 have the same birthday, which happened to fall last week on the day that H is supposed to have his during-the-week visitation. It was very strange. I had asked H several times to please let me know what his plans were for the kids that afternoon/evening, so I could make my own afternoon/evening plans with S10. I told him that his parents and I wanted to do something with S10 for his birthday, so I needed to know what time he would bring them back. He was just very wishy-washy.
When he did bring them back home, he seemed at loose ends. I don't know---was he waiting for an invite to join in the family gathering? The previous year we did all spend the joint birthday together at his parents house, even though he was living with OW and had filed for D. It was a little strained, but everything went well and the kids had a great time. He even seemed to behave fairly normally.
I felt a little guilty for not asking him to join us, but honestly, it would not be good for me right now. I'm finally getting to the point of being able to really detach, and spending time with him in a family sitch just would drag me back down into everything again.
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(
