Yes God does need to help both of you inthis, but, as I am learning now, she is not in a position to dsee Him, unless it is through you. Forgiveness is huge and very hard to give. I understadn itand I am learning. I am over my anger and have opened my eyes to what I need to forgive and how I will do it. But, she will need to want my forgiveness and will want to recommit to me and my family. She must seek forgiveness, He will help her, but if I cannot show her Him in me and through me, then she will not see the love and forgiveness. If my W walked back into my life right now, I would be happy, temporarily. the reality that she may do this again, that I have become a doormat to her, would be MY undoing, not hers. God has gicven me the strength to persevere, to change without question, and when the time was right, He called me back to Him. He made sure that it was what I wanted and needed. I have faith in him and what I am doing. People argue with me, and tell me what I should do, only one voice matters in this situation right now, His. He speaks to me, often. You are in the same situation and need to go to Him. Let Him speak to you about what it is you need to do to make your life whole and complete. Trust in Him to help you. It is a strange feeling, losing my anger. It is a soft feeling, a feeling that a huge burden is off my shoulders. I can begin to forgive now that my anger has opassed. I could not have done this without Him or His words. I trust Him completely. It has been exhausting, but this part of my battle is over and now the new one has just begun. It has been easier and more emotional with Him by my side. Let Him work through you, let her se Him in you and let her then feel His presence around you and she will know your love.
