Yep I did all that! lol Started househunting etc luckily for me I didn't need it in the end and I hope maybe something will click inside your H too. I just took the philosophy that so what if we divorced we could always remarry if that was what was meant to be. I am a great believer in fate and you in God so we both have something to hang on to. I did almost get to the point of no return but that was because H was so vindictive and venemous at times. It doesn't sound like your H is like that. Will you see H at Xmas? Does he have family he can talk to?