Hopeful Husband everything that FaithfulH said above is true. Your wife sounds exactly like mine in what she says and at eight months now she is still very determined to keep walking even with all that I have done to prove myself while being cautious on my approach to doing things. I probably can't stress how much you will really have to let go and let God do the work. I have been learning this long and hard and the bible says this: This is not your battle it is the Lord's. He will fight this battle but only once you get out of his way. It is likely you may see little progress until you step back and let the Lord have it all. You may see your wife make bad dicisions and things that you totally disagree with but can do nothing about, but she is going to have to learn on her own. Seeing this is going to cause you pain because what she does directly effects you as your one flesh marriage and you don't want to see her get hurt, but when someone is so dead set like this all you can do is let them make mistakes, hope they learn and in the mean time pray, tithe, fast, pray more and let God do the work. If you doubt God can fix this in time then there is now way you/us as people can fix it if he can't. I will give my wife what she wants the divorce, I don't like or want it, but I can't control her, God is in control of the outcome if she comes back. I in the mean time will press forward with my life, goals, and friend/family activity. My wife said the same thing about God telling her to leave. You are right, God does not do that, and she says she is confused, my wife said she was too. What they are hearing is satan whispering in there ear and they are so blinded by all that is wrong that they just can't see right now and they won't until they hit rock bottom and are forced to turn nowhere but to seek God fully. The waiting for them to hit bottom is what takes so long because the feel so right in what they believe they are doing, but that is satans deception at work. Right now satan has many strongholds on there mind that they are incable of seeing and breaking. It is going to take a big wake up call personally for them to see how wrong they are. Your explaining, preaching and so on will prolong this. It will go faster if you let them go, make there mistakes and always remember no matter what they do God is always in control even though they don't know that. I love my wife, but she has got to mature and learn a lot. I don't want anything bad to happen to her, but she is her own individual and will have to live with the path she chooses be it good or bad, just pray for the best and stay out of the way, trust me on this. A lot of times the less you know the better. If you let her be, keep to yourself and work on yourself in some cases they get curious and you start to look attractive in different ways to them. If they do start to show interest, zip the lips and take it slow for they will be testing the waters and may come and go. These are testing grounds you will be under and if you did get back together it continues to test for a good while, there is a lot to prove, it's long hard work. There won't be any shortcuts for they will drag it out. If you want to help yourself in speeding things then this is where I am in the bible Matthew 6:33 "But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you." Do as this verse says for you and let God take care of her.
