I agree with Ali, it pisses me off too. Know what? Your XW is a bitch. Get out from under this house, resolve the debt, and you are blessedly free from her. No need for contact, no need for nastigrams.
My XW has a habit of ordering the kids around, even when they are with me, then expecting me to somehow read her mind about what she told them. She called bitchin at me that I let our son drive in what appeared to be a minor snowstorm (although from her reaction you'd think it was the storm of the century). I just said, "what can I do about it now? It already occurred. So basically you are just calling to bitch." She started spewing at me, so I just hung up. The beauty of not caring what she says. It is so wonderfully liberating when you realize that you don't have to even communicate when your ex is being a... When visitation starts running smoothly, you might not have to talk to her for months at a time. Sometimes it's uncomfortable at events you both have to go to, but people like your XW (and mine), thrive on creating drama. It's best to remove yourself from their little drama.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
I never liked her... NEVER!!! I think she is/become a mean person. A bitch. Royal/Queen bitches you call them? I would love to slap her around a bit...(is she bigger than me?).
Anyway, what phoenix said. Once you are free, she can die of her own poison. When you sell and settle evrything, throw a party. I told you months ago, you got lucky here... xxx K
Whoa...given how Kalni and Phoenix responded to your XW...makes me think a bit more about my own W...since they do have a tremendous amount in common...especially the anger...
I have to admit I did bite back at her a bit tonight. We had this house deal pretty much sewn up for the $253K counter (they were going to take it), but XW decided that wasn't a good enough counter offer and demanded the counter offer to be raised up to $262K!
Well, I was livid when I heard this and called -while staying as calm as I could - and left a message for XW (she didn't have the guts to pick up the phone) saying we need to make sure not to blow this sale and while I was fine w/her wanting a higher counter, we need to discuss these things.
Anyway, I'm kicking myself a bit b/c my agent called right after that and told me he and the other agent spoke "off the record" and the other agent understood the situation and they would still be contering tomorrow. Hey, maybe XW will net us another thousand or so, but I'm ticked she did this.
In fact, if the counter comes in at $253K or higher and she wants to turn it down, I'm telling her to buy me out then b/c I'm gone and her credit will go down when I leave. She's deathly afraid of ruining her credit rating, so I'll tell her if she screws w/me, I have no fear in running my rating further into the ground. It can't go much lower.
I don't want to be an arse about it, but if that is how she wants to play, I'm more than ready to do it. I'll be damned if I'll sit back and let her try and "force" me to stay here just to protect her credit rating.
Phoenixdeux - Great to have you back. Nice come back for XW on her being hit on...I may just use it. I also agree w/ your assessment that she is a bitch...b/c she is. The sooner these loose ends are cleaned up, the better for my sanity. Not dealing w/her for months on end would be simply HEAVEN!
Ali, love, you are absolutely correct, but the problem is you are thinking rationally. I was doing that as well and hoping to see the nice side of XW, but it just isn't coming out, so she'll continue to be ugly and ugly. Yes, it would be nice if we could get along in time, but she will probably bad mouth me until the day she dies. Oh, well. Her pain. Her ugliness. Her anger. Her unhappiness.
Kalni, my protectress, I know you've hated her from the start and you, my lady are NO bitch. She may have raised your hairs up a bit, but you're no bitch, my sweet. I would LOVE to see you and Ali slap the sh!t out of her one day. I'd even spring for a pay-per-view showing of it. Could you take her? You are a Bond girl, for Heaven's sake. You were joking about that, right?
Oh, and Ali, as far as the ladies go, they're not into me much right now. I'm repelling instead of attracting. Oh, well. I'll just continue to date myself for the time being.
Hey, Gypsy. Yes, XW is a real peach. She's a bit of a control freak if you couldn't tell and btw, she accused me of being too "controlling" over her. Go figure.
Anyway, I'm going to continue to do the best I can to stay as reserved as I can w/this whole process. She's a bit of work, that ex-one of mine. First she says "just sell the house" then she's pissed b/c I'm negotiating a sale w/out her.
Go figure.
Anyway, how did I react to her almost blowing the sale tonight? I lifted the chest and shoulders hard then killed myself w/45 minutes of cardio until my t-shirt weighed 10lbs. from sweat.
Felt soooooo good and I was able to no longer give a rat's arse about her. Very refreshing.
She didn't answer when I called for my D, but I also let that slide as well. I'm a patient man. Her controlling ways will drive D away from her soon enough and I'll be there for my little girl.
Damn, Rob - she's got so much to work on in herself and it's just a shame that she opts to live in anger rather than recognize her own pain...
Trying to reason with a tsunami just leaves you feeling wet and spent - going to the gym sounded like a good idea. I went tonight myself - just to be around other people for a while - and though there weren't many people there - it was good to come out feeling sore in a healthy way.
My W pulls crap like that too - not answering - not calling back for me to speak with my S2...they have no idea how patient we can be...nor how determined we are to be healthy.
Yes, Carlos, XW is a mess. Very bitter. Very angry. Very controlling. As has been said over and over, the sooner I can rid myself of her, the better off I'll be.
You said it the best, my friend:
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they have no idea how patient we can be...nor how determined we are to be healthy
Amen to that! The Gospel right there, brother.
I'm finally heading to bed! Talk to you all tomorrow.
