Well you have had an interesting day haven't you. LOL How are you holding up? So he's going there with the money isn't he.

I really wish that you could do a super short Plan A and then go to a dark Plan B.

I don't think you can stay in this holding pattern and have any remaining love left for your H. Your love bank may become so drained that you may not want the marriage should he turn around. If you did a Plan A and a really really good one, then when you go dark he can do nothing but look back and see how great it could be to come home. I think he may respond well to a Plan B. Have you thought about registering at the other forum too? I am both here and at the SAA forum.

I love GAL and 180 here and then for strategies for hopeful recovery I go to the forum for SAA. Maybe post your story on the forum there under the infidelity section, but do it on the General Questions area as it gets the most attention. Make sure your Topic sounds pretty desperate the veterans grab it quicker.

He may not want a divorce, he may just want to control the money or maybe OW is pushing. Even if he does you can counter it and make it hard and painful and maybe the OW will get tired of it and move on.

Try to be calm so you can get that proof, that would be a nice wake up call. I heard somewhere in fault states you can sue the OW for damages, is that true? Maybe you can use that thread AFTER you get the pictures.

Time for the Dialog!!!

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca