Divorcebusting.com  |  Contact      
Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 9 of 15 1 2 7 8 9 10 11 14 15
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 6,948
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 6,948
Yay for John! \:\)


Me-35

Together: 18 yrs
M-12.5 yrs
S-8
D-4
D'd: Feb. 2010

The LORD your God is with you,
he is mighty to save. --Zeph. 3:17
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
J
john210 Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
[censored] Kerry, I just got off one of those multi hour phone calls....now what....am I doomed?????

Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 4,585
G
Member
Offline
Member
G
Joined: Feb 2008
Posts: 4,585
Choices, Giovanni.. choices.

A man has needs.
A union of divorce runs its course either uphill like salmon or out to a vast ocean of possibilities.

My cautious nature is to close one door before opening another.

What would you counsel a friend going through a similar situation?

Make sure you know what's drawing you to her.

Enjoy.

*hugs*

Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
J
john210 Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
Hey Gypsy, so now I'm a fish??? :-)

Believe me the door is closed..XW will always be in my life because of D8, however, as I continue to detach and at the risk of repeating myself, the woman she has become is no longer a viable option for me. Even if she slipped on the ice, fell on her head and had a change of heart, the best I can do for her is be her friend.

I would tell a friend to stop thinking and go with the flow....have fun enjoy and don't hur anybody purposely along the way.

I have an idea of what is drawing me to her....if I am perfectly honest, I miss female companionship, I miss sharing things with a female, I miss human warmth and little Johnny needs some excercise! For the time being that is what is drawing me to her. I may be committing to an exclusive relationship a little early. We will see...next date Saturday night....she is choosing the venue...it's a surprise.

Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
J
john210 Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
By the way, D8 has her Christmas play this afternoon. I have asked my mom if she wanted to join me. She was very happy and I know D8 will also be. I love making people happy.
SD18 arrived last night and her mother told me that she wants to spend some time with D8 and I...I will be morre than happy to do so....she was my original little girl!
XW called me last night to wish me a nice week as she is heading off on vaca for a week....her timing as usual reflects how self centered she has become....but quite honestly it does not bother me one bit. Her sister is house sitting and baby sittin D* until Thursay after school at which time i pick her up and she is mine until December 26th!!!!! WOW!!!!!! That is 8 days in a row!

Joined: Oct 2007
Posts: 5,992
S
Member
Offline
Member
S
Joined: Oct 2007
Posts: 5,992
Originally Posted By: john210
[censored] Kerry, I just got off one of those multi hour phone calls....now what....am I doomed?????

That right there are darn funny. You seem to be following the same path as myself. I hope Little John is not doing too much of the guiding.

Let me guess where the X is going - Mexico with new guy. Wonder if she will see the other guy there?

Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
J
john210 Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
Hey Kerry,

Little John is doing some of the guiding.....not too much though...at least I don't think so....let's just say that little john gave me the ok to proceed.

Your guess is as good as mine as far as the X's destination ...if your scenario is correct, she has more issues than I anticipated. But, that is no longer my concern....they can have a threesome for all I care. The X is now neatly stored away in a compartment of my brain belonging to the past. A friend that I run into once in a while who used to be close to me but for whatever reason we grew apart.....strangely I feel sorry for her...... a little bit.

Joined: Aug 2007
Posts: 1,387
L
Member
Offline
Member
L
Joined: Aug 2007
Posts: 1,387
Originally Posted By: John210
Little John is doing some of the guiding.....not too much though...at least I don't think so....let's just say that little john gave me the ok to proceed.


and the ladies are waiting, I told you that you would do ok.
(opps... a complement from a dude to a dude)


Lan

Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 6,948
B
Member
Offline
Member
B
Joined: Jan 2008
Posts: 6,948
Enough man-love, first tomato calls him sweetie now you are gushing...

Hey John just stopping by. You are a big boy and you will learn to navigate the dating game, I am sure of that. As long as you and ItalianLady40 both know the score, that is what matters.

I know Mike was dating a gal and she was trying to get too close too soon and he just leveled with her. Not that you are moving that fast I am just saying, when you are honest none of it has to be too uncomfortable. Just have fun and relax and maybe little john will come out of hibernation soon....


Me-35

Together: 18 yrs
M-12.5 yrs
S-8
D-4
D'd: Feb. 2010

The LORD your God is with you,
he is mighty to save. --Zeph. 3:17
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
J
john210 Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
J
Joined: Nov 2007
Posts: 3,135
Here is a prediction....Little John will be fully deployed this weekend....no ands, ifs or butts.... eerrrr.... i mean buts.
You are right BBJ about knowing the score....my view is let's enjoy each other's company and see where all this takes us....no expectations....I still have not called the teacher...I guess I just want to do this slowly...one person at a time. However, I have been told by a woman friend that perhaps i should be seeing several woman at once just to get a view or a feel of the landscape out there.

Thanks for the encouragement Lan....but there is only one lady waiting...ok maybe two....

Page 9 of 15 1 2 7 8 9 10 11 14 15

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard
Michele Weiner-Davis Training Corp. 1996-2025. All rights reserved.
Powered by UBB.threads™ PHP Forum Software 7.7.5