Partner left after 9 years - now what?

[MsMelancoly]

((Ali)), Refuseto lose is right (in all advise). You became to close to him & his comfort level (hence not knowing his address - he can remain a safe distance).

mishka, Nice to hear someone with the same theory. I might add maybe he was too happy & didn't know how to deal with it. Or maybe never found his own happiness & relied on others. My H's life has been fear, seeking approval & most of all being insecure. (My H's longtime BF mentioned the insecure - totally true). I laugh, when I think of when my H moved here. We would go to the store, he was practically walking in my shoes. One time when I stopped he ran into me, he was following so close.

You've been given ace advise Ali, take it & put on your boots!