I have been going thru this since May. It is not easy. I have questioned many things about myself, my marriage and my family. I still do not know how I truly want this all to end. Well I know exactly what I want to happen, but it is out of my control.
Maybe you can be successful at a 180 by letting loose a little bit and not being so structured or planned in all of your actions. That is probably what I need to do as well... loosen up a little bit and go with the flow.
One last thing to remember. You do not need to call him.