I'm so glad you didn't get po'd at my comments. I was a bit harsher than usual I think. I'm not in your R so who knows? I do wonder if a good 180 for you might be to expect your W to act like an adult, as a capable parent, etc.? I would think for a weekend or 2 a month she should be able to do that; but I know there are some that aren't and I do worry about your kids. I don't know your W like you do of course, and safety of the kids has to come first definitely... Karen
I mean I have to admit good stuff has come out of this D sitch in my case. I have a break once a week when I can do stuff, relax, not be taking care of the kids 24/7. My H is spending more time and more quality time than he did before b/c he was kind of an absent dad even more so than he is now. Of course, that kind of stuff could have happened without a D, I'm just saying it hasn't been all bad. And eventually I'm hoping I will have a serious R with someone, maybe the kids can see how a man should treat a woman and not abusive like their dad. I do think M can be a beautiful, wonderful thing or at least it seems that way for most of the couples in my church anyway... And some day hopefully you will have a wonderful R too, with a really loving and caring person!!! Karen
