You go away for a while and have so much to read. I just keep falling further and further behind.
I am not going to go back and quote a bunch of people.. I am just going to shoot from the hip.
A big theme thru a lot of the postings is "Why".. Why can't he see. Why can't he act. Why is he like this.
To me.. I kinda expected what you are dealing with right now. Again it does not fit my time table but.. I still expected that we would end up somewhere like this. The "uncertainty" phase.. I guess you could call it.
I talk a lot about "timing" and how it never seems that LBS/WAS can get it right. As a general thought.. I can see the "timing" just really screwed up here. I don't really know why.. but it always seems to happen this way.
The LBS stops looking to the WAW and looking to a new life.. that is when the WA.. really starts paying attention.
I still think you are asking too much.. too quickly. I do.
I also think that he is doing the same thing.
Both of you have your expectations really high.. yet they are completely different "Expectations".
You want him to be warm and caring and "action" his words.
He wants almost the same thing.
Part of what I see is the "pride" getting in the way.. Why should I do "X"?
You both seems to be asking this question of yourselves.. but again with way different "X's" as the question.
He has gone from someone who did not care about losing you to someone who did.
You have gone the opposite way.
As with everything else that happens here (DB.com) it is a cycle.
I have had a strong feeling to just tell you to stop doing anything for a few weeks. The sad part about it is the "frustration" level I feel from this.. is coming from him. That is a big change for me when reading your posts. As hard as it is to believe the man is really scared.. to me. And he is reacting this way because of that. I can actually see some begging and pleading coming up soon.
I don't know that I have anything specific to say right now other than just "chill" for a little while. I see you putting yourself out there.. and only getting hurt in return.
Anyway.. sorry I have not been around much.. just my "Crazy" life.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
