Do you really think that if he was truly depressed with you..I mean truly dianosed as depressed that without AD's and some sort ot treatment that this OW has been some type magic bullet that has made his depresssion disappear?? I don't think you can just shake depression by having a new relationship..you probably just mask the depression with the euphoria of someone new..
I know you are right. Our MC...who was also an IC for both of us told me she thinks he is bipolar but didn't see him long enough to diagnose him. That doesn't just go away. I know she isn't a magic bullet. Logically I know this....sometimes emotionally I just can't grasp it.
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This is an older woman and, even though you are probably very happy for her, on some level you are wondering why you aren't moving forward faster. It's causing a lot of hurt feelings in you - more so than one of your young girlfriends who you have watched go through their romances.
Well, actually it is her daughter that is my age. I think it is getting to me because this girl is just starting her life with her partner....and here I am the same age and already went through a divorce. Just makes me feel like a failure.
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What makes you think that his relationship is "normal" or "happy"?
I guess just my imagination...things I've heard...things I've seen.
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I know for me I've gone through times like you were I was envious that:
a - she wanted someone else other than me, someone else was making her happy b - the other person had what I wanted
Bingo.
The OW that he initially left me for fell apart and he came crawling back....but that was about 5 months later. I guess I was hoping this other R would fizzle out about the same time.
Thanks everybody. Really. I needed a pick me up and you all jumped in and gave me just that. I am doing a little better. I even sucked it up, and went over and talked about the engagement along with everyone else.
