Partner left after 9 years - now what?

[mishka422]

My H's life has never been that great - w/me I think it was for awhile & he didn't know what to do - new territory & all, so he returned to what he was comfortable with, being poor & struggling (both inside & out).

HOLY COW!!! That's exactly what I've been saying to my friends about XH this entire time! I told them he has returned to his roots! He grew up in the projects of East Los Angeles and now he's living in the projects of Fayetteville! NASTY place, no supportive, loving family (his is completely dysfunctional and full of alcoholics), we won't even talk about his gf's paralell's to the women in his family, etc.. Good grief! They do go back to what they know because they can't handle what was actually good for them.

Ali - your BF is completely messed up sweetie. You are going to have to decide how close to the situation you even want to be. You can't allow your concern for him to drag you down into the depths. You are too young, beautiful, and spunky to allow that! Be you, be great, flirt outrageously, try internet dating, take another class, be fabulous! Either he will sort his crap out or he won't. Either way, you will be the better for having lived.