Silver,
Sounds lame but it comes from Fog land and is all fog babble. I'll try to get some info posted about fog babble and things you can say in response. Have you read Surviving an Affair by Willard Harley in addition to DR? Its a great companion book.

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca