Alen,
I got most of this information from a book highly recommend that is geared solely for Adultery. Consider getting it. Its called Surviving An Affair by Willard Harley. It would give you a very good game plan.

Me-38 H-38
Married 18years
Daughter-17 & Son-9
Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08
Left home 5/08/08
Moved in with OW 08/01/08

The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family.
-- Lee Iacocca