Thanks Drew. It's good to hear that a man is saying the same thing as a female would in this sitch. I didn't want to post the whole text convo and what happened at my house, but I felt I had to. I needed advice and I got great advice at that!
Unfortunately H is to watch D for 4 days of her holiday break from school. That starts next week. The days he can watch her are the day after Christmas, the following Monday and Tuesday and then again the Friday after New Years. I wish I could afford to have someone else watch her. At least I know they'll be at my house.