I'm really not THAT bad. Of course I haven't said "I told you so" - I don't have to. He knows. Even tho I joke about denial being a river that runs between his ears, he knows that those deceased relatives all were heavy smokers-unflitered cigarettes & in their day, being social was hanging out at the corner bar, also full of smoke. Annual check ups or going to the Dr. was not even on their radar.

I have a hard time with the fatalistic attitude that "All the men on my Dad's side died before they were 60" and what they did or didn't do wouldn't have mattered.

J


me: 66
H:60
2 adult sons
2 grandsons
adult daughter deceased 5/05
me:Part time trainer
H: plant suprv.