It has been a hard day today... we had a joint check/savings acct that I have been transferring money over (as agreed by H and myself) bimonthly to cover our finances since H moved out. I go into the acct today and see that H's check is "not automatically deposited". Odd? Then it hits me that H must have stopped the automatic deposit. I took a walk first because I was fuming and then went to H's desk. I ask H did you change accts? So H looks nervous and says yes I moved it to another bank so it will be easier for me to get. I will get the money for you and give it to you. This will not work because I have no way to deposit into our out of state acct so I can pay our online mortgage, taxes etc. I said to H why would you NOT talk to me about this before changing it. H said well I was paying ATM charges everytime I took cash out. (Like it mattered for the last 5 years!) I was not a good Dber. I said when you left you told me that we would communicate, co-parent, help each other out, maintain our house etc. You did some work at our house the first week you moved out and never did a thing again -garbage disposal broke, lights out that I can't reach, tiles crackings and a big nothing on your part. Now you just switch accts. without a plan on how to get the joint money in our accts. to pay off our joint bills. H said I will have to figure out how to transfer to our out of state bank. I thought it would not be a problem. I said well that is what communication is about. Then I backslide about OW. I said she is a really bad influence and I want her out of our finances because she is a gold digger. Of course H got mad. H says I wanted out of the M for a long time and not because of the OW. I said you would have worked on the M but did not because of the OW. Why did I think that a fog babble addict would respond to this logic. I mentioned that I signed up for Christmas lunch and the OW signed up also (hates to miss a party), I told H that OW better not go to the party because I will say something to her, she has you for Christmas the least she could do is let me have some fun for the Christmas she wrecked for me. H says that you two will have to fight it out (what power did I give him - I am mad at myself). Then I got my control back (too little too late) and we talked about 20 minutes more about D15 and if he gets fired from his job. H is having an A with his direct report and it is against company policy and rumors are going around. H says I will just have to deal with it (does he get it that it will have such a negative impact on his family and finances for us???) This is a man that dedicated 16 years to the company and throw it away for this gold digger who has been with the company for a year. How far in the fog can he go????
I read other postings and other sites where the WAS does come back but today I feel like dropping the rope. I do not know this man at all. H will hardly look at me. How did we get here? I know later I will feel different but today is a bust.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
