Thanks for posting Cyrena!! I started out in Jan not sure if he was MLC, but now.. !
OMG! My ex was apathetic in the exreme too, and then angry. Then he threw himself into the new job here and kept saying he was tired. He wouldnt admit he was depressed but it became increasingly obvious to me.
He actually told me, Aug 07 before the bomb, that he felt wierd, empty and dead inside. He was dreaming about his dads corpse and couldnt sleep (I only found that out though, as he had googled it). He just told me again a month ago "forget me, I am dead, I'm dead".. meaning, dead inside still I guess.
He met Helen at work, but at first complained she wasnt very bright and a bit annoying (but laughed at all his jokes). His friends dont like her, she is promiscious and drinks alot and is apparently boring and self-involved and aggressive. She looks like a less pretty version of me apprarently!
His Mum is also domineering, cold and critical. She phones him all the time, to talk about herself and never ever listens to him, she is very selfish. She dominated his Dad and ruined his life (left him for his best friend, 18 years old lad, 18 years her junior!). Every gf he had, bar me, was what you might term a "bitch", domineering and giving him a limited love. Opposite of me!
Interesting your theory.. they get OW to make themselves FEEL something, to feel alive, even in pain with a difficult woman is feeling soemthing isnt it. I get that now. I am in therapy as I wonder 'what is wrong with me?? Why has he replaced me for her!? How long did it take you to get over that feeling??
