I wish there were more guys on this site. I could use a man's voice right about now.
I am typing this very low on the keyboard. Does that help?
Is your H still off work this week?
His txt said he was very upset about what happened. That could be taken in different ways. He is upset at himself, or he is upset at you. Do not take the bait. You haven't responded, right?
FG, when do you set a boundary? Is physical abuse a limit? He's crossed a line, does it get easier for him now, what happens next time? What example does your daughter see?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.