Is she cheating??? Please respond!!

[Hope4us]

Haven't read your sitch, but will respond to your question.

ILYB...means she's having an affair. Simple as that. I'm sure there are times when it's said without an affair going on, but it's extremely rare. It means she's in love with OM and the high that goes with it and thinks because that's the way she feels about OM, that she can't be 'in love' with you.

Believe it or not, I think OM moving out of state is bad for you. I had the same thing in my sitch. Him moving will keep the fantasy alive in her mind. They will have no opportunity to get on each other's nerves. They will have no opportunity to figure out the bad things about each of them which will make it doubly hard to end the 'fantasy' in her mind.

I would suggest reading some books on the subject to get an idea just what ILYB..means and then formulate a plan from there. One good thing about OM moving is, unless your W is planning on moving with him, she probably won't leave the M right away. Women tend to not leave a relationship until they have another one lined up. So that gives you time. But you need to educate yourself on what's going on to know how to fight it.

I'll try to read your whole sitch and maybe offer some advise.