One thing I have learned is you have to stand up for your child. My D16 went through a period of bullying in elementary school. My H and I on various periods had to deal with pathetic principals and parents who wouldn't believe their little angels would do such a thing. Huh!!! But, D16 was looking to us to stand up and say "no way are you going to treat my child like this." How about saying, "I'm sorry, but my D12 will not be attending this punishment."
Of course, this is just my way of doing things, and you know your sitch and the consequences to acting in such a fashion. But, it makes my blood boil when a child is being unfairly treated.
((((hugs)))))
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim