My wife and I have had our ups and downs and we're at the stage now where we need to figure out where to go. With how things have gone, the ball is entirely in her court and I've said as much. Three weeks ago yesterday, I told her she needed to tell me what her expectations of our relationship are so that I can know what we're operating under. Either working actively to improve and fix things or to leave it where she's content with it now and essentially being partners in regards to the household and raising the kids.
Either path is workable, one requires more work than the other, but for me it's come down to the fact that it needs to be her decision. After working on things for so long, IC and MC on my part, there's nothing more that I can do until she's ready to do something (or nothing and I move on (but not out)).
But... how long to wait? When you ask a simple question of, "Tell me what your expectations are for this relationship", how long should it take to figure out?
