He did text me and said "I'm very upset about what happened this weekend, I'll talk to you later." So that's all for now I guess.
Ok, see? He did contact you. BUT just leave it at that. Do not respond back or contact him. He needs to know what he did to you was not ok. He still needs some cooling off time. You need to find away to live without him. I sometimes feel like he throws a crumb your way and you grab it right away begging for more. I am not trying to hurt your feelings, just trying to show you what I see. You are not yet detached enough from him. You are still letting him dictate your days. Just live for Dar and your daughter!
I just wish I knew if he really meant it when he said how much he hates me. If so, then why did he tell me just the other week he still has feelings for me. It's so confusing. I'm SOOOO VERY GLAD D didn't go with him though. If he hadn't have gotten that close to me, I wouldn't have been able to tell he had a lot to drink.
FG, if I had a dollar for everytime my H told me he hated me, I'd be rich.
No, he does not mean it. Well maybe at the time he said it he thinks he does, and probably hates the whole world while he's at it, but deep down I think they hate themselves.
He just says he hates you because you are not playing along in his fantasy world. In their fantasy world they think everything should go their way and when something doesn't, they hate the whole world.
In other words, they are just plain nuts!
I know it's hard, but try not to take it too personally. He is just throwing a tantrum like a 2 year old. Just like when a child is in a store and wants something and the parent refuses to buy it and the child screams out "I hate you!"
I wish there were more guys on this site. I could use a man's voice right about now.
I am typing this very low on the keyboard. Does that help?
Is your H still off work this week?
His txt said he was very upset about what happened. That could be taken in different ways. He is upset at himself, or he is upset at you. Do not take the bait. You haven't responded, right?
FG, when do you set a boundary? Is physical abuse a limit? He's crossed a line, does it get easier for him now, what happens next time? What example does your daughter see?
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Just kidding!