Since I've been married to H, I've become a very independent, self-sufficient person. I had to be since H was always out of town "working". I had to make sure everything was taken care of because I wouldn't know when H would be home to take care of it. I think this was part of our problem that H didn't think I needed him anymore. He thought all I saw him as was a paycheck. So he went to OW where he was needed and left me.
My question is, should I become needy? Asking him to come fix things around the house, getting his opinion (ex. painters, workers)(normal I would just tell him after the fact), etc. In the past, when H has come to the house to check things out or work on things, it's always while I'm at work so I don't get to see him. H makes sure that he's home for 4 so he can get OW's kids off the bus and fix dinner for their "family".
Any suggestions on what I can do to prove to H that I do need him?
I was told that when H was helping OW build her house the summer 2007 that he and she were picking out everything together. When we built our home (2005 - H was newly involved with OW). H told me he didn't want to be bothered with anything when it came to choosing colors/floors/cabinets, etc. that he just wanted to handle the pool and the bbq areas. What do you make of this?
