do you really have to convince the kids you're cool?
well since every male figure these kids have ever known has chitt on them including their own daddy..well yes..I do as a matter of fact, if I want to be able to date their mother..I don't think dating their mother would work too well if they did not approve..Do you??
My buddy time..I get all kinds of buddy time..a good buddy of mine went outlet shopping with me on Saturday..Not only did we find good deals and bargains but the scenery was frinkin awesome..
well since every male figure these kids have ever known has chitt on them including their own daddy..well yes..I do as a matter of fact, if I want to be able to date their mother..I don't think dating their mother would work too well if they did not approve..Do you??
Their intial approval isn't required, no. Heck you might not get it for reasons that have nothing to do with you. If you work too hard to befriend them and your relationship with their Mom doesn't pan out (even with no hard feelings from either side), then things will be weird for them & they might not understand, might feel like they did something wrong. Make the relationship all about their Mom for now and see how things go.
Same holds true for your daughter, think of her feelings. All this is stuff I'm dealing with on a daily basis now, so I'm getting direct feedback from my kids. My oldest two are the ones that have the toughest time, but none are immune, and none want to be "won over". They are more accepting with things the less it is "put in their face". For them it is one thing to know Mom has a BF (they are OK with that), they just don't want him paying them undo attention.
OK boys and girls..something in my post must have set a few of you off..this was a one time meet the kids thing in a very public place...a mall folks..a mall...nothing has been thrust upon these kids and I would never do that.. I walked along with them, talked to them..nothing more..
Never doubted you for a minute, Mike. You are too good a man to be hosting sleepovers in front of the kids or something like that........I have read it on this board but I know I won't read it from you.
Never doubted you for a minute, Mike. You are too good a man to be hosting sleepovers in front of the kids or something like that........I have read it on this board but I know I won't read it from you.
Well fine...I had my footie pajamas all packed and everything. Buzzkill!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
You are too good a man to be hosting sleepovers in front of the kids or something like that
thanks for that BBJ..there's just something about shoplifting pootie in front of witnesses...
Caleigh has never met one of my dates yet. The dynamic is a bit different with MHS38 and the opposite weekend thing is difficult..or it appears it will be..we will see
Never doubted you for a minute, Mike. You are too good a man to be hosting sleepovers in front of the kids or something like that........I have read it on this board but I know I won't read it from you.
Well fine...I had my footie pajamas all packed and everything. Buzzkill!
I've got lots of off days.. when Caleigh is not here
I have a feeling that if we all showed up on Mike's doorstep in footie jammies he's break out the twister, ice cream, and the Firefly and it would be quite the party! A great time with good friends face to face at last!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
