"I told him I am done. Get your damb divorce. Do not call me. Do not come here anymore. There is no more "friendship". It is over. Get it done."

You actually said these things without yelling? Wow--okay, I will be the first to admit that if I were to say those words to my H, I would not be talking, I would be yelling.

Isn't there an anger class you have to attend as part of your probation? I know those are mandatory out here where I live.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19