I would certainly let her do the contacting - children are incredibly honest about their feelings and I think that really helps with PTSD.
I am so glad that I am helping and like you I decided that I loved my H and I wanted to stay for the long haul. I just knew that he wasn't in the right mind and that it wasn't just MLC. He would hug me but I don't think I existed as a "woman" to him at all.
