mwg, I didn't yell at my H. I tried to talk to him, more than anything I have over and over again tried to get him to talk to me. I sit there on the phone saying nothing waiting for him to open up. Nothing happens. Trust me, yelling at him gets us absolutely no where. It puts him on the defense immediately. And especially when he is drunk.

Hurt control is what I need.

M41
H42
D17
Adopted N14
M22 T24
"Bomb" 4/07
Sep 8/07
Admitted OW 11/07(only to me)
OW back 12/4/07
PA on off thru 7/08
says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08
D final 7/09
Moving on and up!!