Oh Hoosier, hugs to you. I am glad you have one hurdle over, you are right not to sweat the small stuff. Hope your daughter is on the mend, there is so much sickness around just had 5 days in bed myself with flu. I don't know why they don't have Christmas in the summer -oh I guess they do in lots of places-ha my small UK mind at work there. I hope you get the money straight into your account and not reliant on him handing it over. Take care and yes it does will get easier.
Yes, that was part of the agreement, altho it doesn't spell out how that's going to happen. So it probably won't. A couple weeks ago he was late getting me a payment and I ended up with a ton of overdraft charges--which I could ill afford. So Christmas, which was already thin, is thinner still. These are the reasons I have always dreaded being alone in the world; they are very valid reasons. It isn't about feeling inadequate without a man in my life; it has everything to do with having no safety net of connections with people who can help when needed.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
last week I had to do CPR recertification (one of those obligatory nursing things). The person I sat next to, out of a room of ~30 strangers, ended up being a therapist who worked, among other units, on the same unit with OW. I just found that out as we were waiting for check-offs. I asked if she knew OW--oh, yes! She asked if she was a friend of mine. Oh, wth I thought--no, I said, my husband recently left me to renew an old relationship with her. Yes, it was an awkward moment for sure. But she was quite sympathetic, and if she's like any other woman the truth will soon be common knowledge. And she was appalled that a hospital chaplain would toss his family out the window to have an affair with a nurse on his unit--and she described my H without any prompting. No wonder the unit has a chaplain around so much.
BTW--I did apologize for making her feel awkward.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
I think you will learn to dot the I's and cross the t's in agreements, your h sounds like he will just take advantage.Dreadful when it's his child. The financial implications of being single at our age (I,m much older tho but was a litle older than you are now when it happened) was and is my greatest concern. It somehow seems the wrong end of life to be scrimping and poor. I truly hope God sends an angel to watch over you or at least opens a window.
Yes, it does seem the wrong end of life to be living like this. I've worked for 30 years--I shouldn't be this poor. But I should've been more selfish; gotten another degree instead of helping out 2 husbands establish their careers. What I did for love, for my family. I need to raise D to be a little more high-maintenance than I have been.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
((((((((Hmama)))))))) You will be taken care of. Somehow. Someway. What you put out to the world, comes back to you increased.
I'm sorry you're going through all this right now. It just isn't fair.
What can I do to help?
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Okay, I just got a note from D12's principal; she has to serve another in-school suspension tomorrow because we were 2 minutes tardy today. My car doors were frozen shut because we had an ice storm. Of course, he had no problems--because he parks in his attached heated garage. And she'll no doubt be late tomorrow because she'll be with H tonite. So let's punish her for the weather and for her father's decisions--yeah, that makes sense. The jerk didn't even answer my email the last time she was late, then had the nerve to reply to it today--almost 3 weeks later.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
