So the W was supposed to take the kids to see Santa tonight after I got off of work. She called earlier to tell me that she couldn't; Have to work late now. I guess she missed her final exam today. It was originally scheduled yesterday. So she had to take time out today to complete; thereby pushing her work schedule late.
so it's Daddy and Kid's night out. I'll take every bit I can get.
My weekend has been pretty good. Took the kids to get haircuts, my D to a beauty salon so she can feel like a girl and my son to a regular place because he's a boy. Took them to see Bolt 3D; they loved it. This is a 180 for me because I rarely did this before. We had a great afternoon Sat.
Today, We went to MIL house for a afternoon dinner and gingerbread cookie making. My SIL and her S came over as well. I watched football and a few beers. Visited with SIL who is struggling in her M. Her H is a alcoholic with anxiety issues. He just had a nervous breakdown evidently. SIL has visited with L's to survey her options. She's not sure.
FIL called me this evening, guess he got a text from the W asking him for Christmas money. Seems she told him that she and I were struggling to pay for Christmas for the kids and he wanted to know the real story. I told him that we had both agreed to go in halves up to $375 each. She has bought some things and I have as well. I told him we didn't need any money. He doesn't want to give her any money. Then he called back wanting to verify another story she told him about getting the W getting a pay cut at work. I responded that it is likely true.
Almost immediately the W called and asked where I was. I told her that we were at her mother's and she immediately asked to speak to her. I gave MIL a head's up that she was probably going to ask for money. MIL told after the phone call, that W was upset that she wasn't invited; but she had to work. W couldn't have been there anyway. W sounded almost desperate when I talked with her. The only thing she mentioned about the kids was wanting to take them to see Santa Claus tomorrow night after she gets off work at 6pm. I don't have a problem with that. That was the only thing that we talked about.
So FIL wanted to know what my Christmas Eve plans were as he always has a big family function at his place. He wanted to know if we were going to be there; because, if so, he wasn't going to allow the W to bring OM there. I told him that the kids and I were going back up North to visit with my family that day and would be home on Christmas.
So that's my update. Hope everyone else had a fun, uneventful weekend.
Tom--That sounds like about as perfect a weekend as you could hope for. You are a great father and a strong guy. Good for you on keeping a strong relationship with W's family.
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{{Tom}} Glad you had a good weekend and it's great that you have such a good relationship and strong allies with the inlaws..that makes things easier for both you and them..keeps the airways clear
Tawnya
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Hey, Tom! *hugs* It sounds like you had a great weekend with the kids, and yay for cookies!
It's great that you have such a close relationship with the ILs and that they are not giving in to your W's demands for more cash. I'm sure the kids really appreciate being able to still have a close relationship with their grandparents, and I'm sure that removes some stress from them.
I hope your week goes as well as your weekend, and hang in there. You are doing great, and you're an excellent father.
Visited with SIL who is struggling in her M. Her H is a alcoholic with anxiety issues. He just had a nervous breakdown evidently. SIL has visited with L's to survey her options. She's not sure.
This struck me because it kind of describes where I was at during my depression. alcohol is the medicine men often use to get away from their hurt and depression.
She's going to see a lawyer instead of reaching out to friends and family to HELP her husband get treatment? Ready to abandon him after he has a 'breakdown'?
Yeah, it's easy to say "Oh, but he's an alcoholic" like that somehow absolves his family from helping him.
It's sad that our society has made that acceptable.
