We own a house together. She definately wants a divorce. I want to sell the house but because of the poor housing market these days we would be upside down about $25K. I still want to sell. She does not want not want to keep the house but doesn't want to loose money, so she will stay in the house. I will sign it over to her. I don't think she can afford it and I am setting her up for failure but I have been told that I should not worry about that. It is kind of a weird situation. We have friends that are also going through a divorce. My friends wife moved in with my wife and I moved in with my friend temporarily. This may be a positive because my friends wife is in the same position I am in. She wants to make their marriage work. Maybe we can be positive influences on the two non-believers. Either way she is a good person and I think she would influence my wife in a good way and maybe keep her out of some trouble.
Here are my short-teem goals for the relationship:
-Sit down and actually have a conversation with my wife without an arguement, but I need to sit back at this point and have her approach me.
-Stop chasing her away.
-To make her smile again.
Here are my personal goals:
-To continue to renew my faith.
-To continue to read books and forums on how to be a better me and put the techniques I learn into practice.
-I joined a gym today. I am going to start going to the gym at least three times a week. I am in good shape but I need the outlet for stress and it will help.
I am trying to practice as many of the DB techniques as I can. My major problem is keeping my mouth shut. Everytime I see her I feel the need to talk to her. Moving out this weekend will help with that. I have not read "not just friends", I will have to add it to my list. I am now reading "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus". My neighbor gave it to me and told me that it helped him during hard times in his relationship. I finished "Divorce Remedy" a week ago. I am also seeing a therapist, I have a divorce busting coach, and I am praying alot.
M 27 W 26 M 4.5 Years T 6 years Bomb Oct. '08; "ILYBIANILWY", "You don't fit into my life", "Our marriage had to have been a mistake because it is not working".
