It sounds like you had a great day. The conversation from S11 was wonderful for you to hear. It is interesting how perceptive they are. S11 gave you a gift tonight. He helped you with another reason to be strong and rebuild your life for you.
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I don't know if she can ever be healthy enough for me to want to be with her again...not to say that I don't love her - I just no longer confuse loving her with enduring an abusive relationship that she does not want to change.
When I read this, I thought, "Oh, my God! Is he married to my XW?" Our relationships are so very parallel that it is scary sometimes.
Your quote above is what I'm feeling exactly as well. I'll always love her, but I'll never be w/ her in an unhealthy relationship again and I don't know if my XW will ever be able to get healthy either. It makes me sad - just like I know your situation w/ your W makes you sad - b/c I see someone who could be so great, but they don't have the courage, skills, or both to become who we see them as being.
In the end, we are all flawed human beings, and maybe the answer in life is to learn to embrace the flaws we can't fix and learn to fix the ones we can. If we can do that, then maybe we can truly be happy in life.
