Wowowowow {{{Wifey}}} I commented on my thread, since you gave me the synopsis there, but WOW..YOU are an amazingly strong woman and definitely gave me some thought there with the lying right to you thing..
I am glad you are and will be MORE than okay..YOU are an amazingly wonderful woman and your hub would be a fool not to see it..
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
I hope you are proud of yourself, because you definitely deserve to be!! What strength, and integrity, and grit, you have shown!! I am in much the same place right now with my sitch, and I only hope that I can handle myself half so well as you appear to doing!
((((((hugs))))))
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd
Growing hurts. You have grown soooooooooo much since we met. I hope you know how valuable & special you are. You deserve the very best & he wasn't willing to treat you that way. You did the only thing you could do.
HUGS
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Yeah, the thing is he thought he had it all figured out to do it in his time, at his convenience. Now he is living with his parents, for the first time has a lot of credit card debt (talk about a change of personality - he hates credit cards) and has no set plans.
I on the other hand have already taken steps to get the utilities changed into my name. I will apply for a mortgage for the house today. Oh yeah, I also signed up for a membership to match.com. I'm not in any hurry to find someone, but I think for my sanity I will start dating.
I can budget and be very careful with my money. He said he will help if I get in a tight spot - although he would be the last one I would want to call. I can do this on my own and I will.
He is on his own!
Will he come back? Will he get a clue? Right now I don't really care about that. I am focused on me. He pulled the trigger by going to see a lawyer.
Time to focus on me and take care of me and make me happy. That starts today, right now, this very minute.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I feel strong this morning. Very strong actually, its surprising.
I guess I've thrown him overboard and I am motoring on. The really good thing is that I do have a good job and I can make enough to take care of myself.
He now has what he has been asking for. Goody for him. I will absolutely not sit home pining for him. As many tears as I cried yesterday - I am now reset and ready to go on.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
I got in late last night and did not want to call you back that late--I know you have a real job.
Seems like you have been a busy lady this weekend. You sound amazing and I am so proud of you! You have gotten so strong in the past few weeks, I almost don't recognize you!
I have something going on almost every night this week, but I will try to squeeze in a call--with four kids, three in school, there is NEVER a dull moment during the holidays!
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I have missed you, Sis! I am good and I am strong.
I have already transferred most of the utilities into my name and contacted the bank about refinancing.
As soon as the house is in my name I am going to change the locks.
How about that for giving him what he wants!
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
What's the saying "be careful what you ask for, you just might get it".
I'm glad you're doing so good.
Big Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
After talking to my banker I find that I qualify for a home equity loan, which will actually be better for me. No application fees and no closing costs. And by paying more than the minimum payment I can probably have it paid off in 5 years, although I could take up to 15 years if I wanted to.
In order to make the application easier, I asked my h to meet me at the county government center tomorrow when they open. He is going to quit claim the house to me so I can go apply for the home equity loan.
Its amazing how I can do this in one day. I will now be paying for everything, utilities, the house, repairs, maintenance, taking care of my car, my dog, all of it. He is getting what he wants.
I really hope he will be happy. I don't want to wake up in his shoes the day he realizes what he's lost.
Tonight I had a few sniffles in the car on the way home. But I really am ok.
I better get to the work I brought home. Its going to be a late night.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
