Another Wife Hit by the Bomb Thread #5

[The Wifey]

{{{SMW}}} Thank you my friend..well if you read above I said HE really doesn't know, as far as I know, about when/where/how he'll be moving out..I'll be surprised (I mean not really but) when that does happen..we'll see..

Tawnya,

Honey I just reached a point where I couldn't wait any longer. H wants and needs to be separated. Its not what I want at all, but it was literally killing me.

So today I told him to leave. I told him if he really did care about me that he would be gone today. He went to see a lawyer already and all bets are off. I sit here now in relief. It hurts, but I can see that this is best.

I got the whole, I don't have any place to go, I don't have any plans, I don't have anything prepared, I wasn't even going to file the legal separation until the beginning of the year.

I said no, so sorry, but you have to go today. I even handed him money for a motel. I told him he could go to a friends, to a motel, or to his parents and that I didn't really care which it was. But he had to go.

He thinks this separation is wiping the slate clean and we can make a new start. Another thing I clarified for him. I told him that I would like a new start, but that I would not call him or make an effort to see him at all. That if he wanted a new start it would all have to be his effort. And if he didn't make the effort that I wouldn't wait for him. That I would move on and date other people.

I also added that this was now the most painful wall between us that I wouldn't just be fine and take him right back. First time he considered that I might not just be pining away for him. Set him back on his heels, but only a little I'm sure.

Stay strong, girl. You are worth fighting for and if he doesn't - his loss.